Man, it's one thing to talk Billy Bad-ass and another thing to feel that way... Struggling here like it's the bomb drop all over again because in some circle their R has been made public.

My stepson texted me yesterday and wants to take batting practice, we're tentatively going to do that on next Monday evening. Then he texted me later just chatting like he's reaching out to me. Or maybe she has his phone, who knows. I'm going to text W on Sunday to the effect of "SS wants me to pitch him for batting practice on Monday to get ready for tryouts. If there is any issue with this please let me know."

My improvement over time is that I haven't spoken to her in any way. I have determined what my plan is action is going to be regarding the filing. I am going to present her with the paperwork with my signature on it. She will have to sign it and file it herself. I feel this defines my boundary while giving her the opportunity to express reservations if she has any.

Really struggling to come to grips that W actually has full blown left me for another man. I have to find some self respect to let this go but I still love my W. I think I have a screw loose because I shouldn't.

So I guess I still am DB'ng in a way because I am hopeful that things will take a turn. If they don't her destiny will be in her hands to execute on 8/27. If that happens I won't be looking back.

Good luck to all in your respective sitch's!


me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!