Kevd111

[JustStunned]

IMO you are still treating DB as a set of tactical tools to affect the outcome you desire. I will not belabor this as it is your decision how you proceed.

Each sitch is different and this one is yours. You know it best. We only know what is posted here.

Did you break the rules? Who cares! Results matter, following the rules does not. Shifting to Capt. Barbossa’s voice “They’re more like guidelines really”.

I am not suggesting abandoning the “rules” just that results matter more. Sandi’s sig includes do what works.

During one of my coaching session I was encouraged to dial the tension down and encourage a pleasant exchange. Find a way to provide an environment where each of you can experience some pleasant time together.

I did say it was too bad I was not getting a chance to see the kids enjoy the ocean and encouraged her to take some pics

So you lamented not being able to spend time with your children during an enjoyable moment and asked her to document their joy. What is wrong with that? It provides her an opportunity to further realize how much fun her children are having and by extension she is also. It provides an opportunity to relive an enjoyable moment while reviewing the photos.

Now do not pressure to see the photos. Let that happen naturally and if it doesn’t do not permit it to bother you- no expectations. She is not responsible for your happiness and you are not responsible for hers.

I suggest that you stop focusing upon what her tone may mean. It is very good that you managed to get past that and be upbeat and pleasant.

Baby steps, small pleasant exchanges nurturing small improvements. No pressure, no expectations. Embrace the changes this journey brings.