Thanks Vorlon. I seriously think my wife is mentally ill. Nobody in their right mind does things like this, or thinks like this.
Thats why I said oxytocin is a serious drug. As much as Heroin or Crack. They would lie, cheat, steal, put themself in harms way, hurt people they care about for the "love of their life".
It's hard for them to get off of it. Most people's ride off of oxytocin is over after the LBS decides enough is enough and divorces. Then there is no 3rd leg to hold everything up.
How are you going to convince her that the "love of her life" is not the "love of her life"?
3rd time is a charm. You did your work, you made your effort. You are still alive, breathing, hopefully you have all of your mental function. You have greater awareness, and going into any new serious relationship you will let them know that "I can't tell you what to do. I don't want to control you if I could. But, I learned that I simply cannot tolerate an affair. If you have an affair or intimacy with anyoone else, that tells me our relationship is over."
The light at the end of the tunnel for these situations, is a good situation with someone else who appreciates you. Perhaps this person has had an affair done on them or did it to others, and know to the bottom of their heart it is something they would never ever want to do to anyone.
There's alot of positives coming out of a situation where someone doesn't want to be with you. I'm glad you sound good, and keep us all in mind and I'd like to hear positive feedback in the future as you look forward.
