Well, DBing for the 3rd time. It's just not worth it.
I could write a book myself on dealing with all this.
Long story, short synopsis:
Wife left June 3, said she didn't want to go, but was going to try it, that something was not right with her and us. Daughter cried and pleaded for her to come home, breaks my heart for her. Adult son tried as well. Neither talks to me much about the sit. She left almost all her stuff here. We have done plenty of things together since she left, quite a bit of it initiated by her. We had vacation planned at end of June, she said she wanted to go. We had very good family time, it is a time-share that we have been enjoying for 20 years. She said it might help her to get straightened out. Came home, she went back to her place. I had to be out of town for a few days, she stayed here at home with kids, said it felt great. Stayed one night with me here when I got back, then gone again.
She is having an affair with OM. I have caught her and confronted. I ended up telling her she has two weeks to end it and make a damn decision. The funny thing about this is that no one in our family or inner circle of friends knows that she has moved out. She doesn't want anyone to know. She won't tell her mother, and just keeps on talking and visiting her as if nothing is different. It has about killed me and my daughter.
I'm ready for it to be over. If she doesn't come home, I will have to sell the house(my elderly mother lives next door) but I can't afford to live here in huge house with just one income. Also, it is not home to me anymore, plus way too big and too much property to take care of.
I've had it. Daughter is in the most critical stage of development as a person at 12 years of age.
It's just a nightmare.
She says she loves me but has caused too much hurt.
She said yesterday, "Why won't God tell me to go home?" I told her because she was listening to the devil.
My confronting her and giving her two weeks probably blew it, but I can't take it anymore.
Feel free to comment. Don't see that the situation could get any worse.
Me:53 W:50 M:29 years T: 30 years Children: S21, D12
