Oh Zig, I've gotten so much from your bootcamp thread! thank you for sharing and reading the advice given to you helps me as well!
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It's getting FUN, isn't it. You are building the attraction and love all over again. Getting a chance to revisit the beginnings. And make new beginnings. Romance over and over again...with the SAME partner
errr yes! It is fun, but it's also that sort of feeling you get when you don't know if a boy likes you and you're over analysing and worried about the next time he'll text.
Yes you are very right...the rate of communication, the amount is huge. I texted him yesterday afternoon because I'd heard a big truck had gotten stuck under a bridge where he works. I thought about saying take a picture if you guys walk down there but I thought that's too much. 10 mins later he sent me a pic and said cops wouldn't let me get any closer.
We texted on and off yesterday all day.
I only bought one sess. that was a month ago. I was on the fence and really sort of thinking a) this is hopeless and b) I am sick of worrying about him and hoping something will change...
Best money I spent obviously because look how much has changed since then. a) I feel so much more confident and happy and detached b) he's come closer and our relationship (frienship) has gotten better
I am going to buy more but I'm not sure when. I think when this isn't working for me, then I'll move on. Right now I think she'd say "why are you worried!!!! he wants you, girl" LOL
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i made it a huge point to act as if i was completely independent and needed nothing from him - absolutely nothing from him - and i think it made him feel bad. otoh - i try to ask for very little mundane things which don't put pressure on him
I do remember her telling me not to be afraid to ask him for things and not to be so defensive explaining why I was asking him for things.
You're right things happen and then I think what's going on, what should I be doing, and I need to be still. I woke up this morning wishing I could snuggle with him. (I hate that I felt that way...but we all have feelings right?)
