Tad, If your xw was happy, she wouldn't be constantly poking at you. The anger that she exhibits, tells us that she's still not a happy person and she is going to continue to lash out at the one person she feels safe with and that is you. However, you can change that by not reacting to her antics, as well as not having much contact w/her. Your son is old enough to have some kind of relationship w/her, whereby the two of you should have little contact about things.
Let me just say this, mlcers don't like to be alone too long and that's why they tend to have someone waiting in the wings for them. Some rush divorce and marry quickly and others don't. They think that the issue is us and the marriage they had w/us, but unless they face their demons and actually do the hard work, the next marriage will be a disaster.
She's not a happy person, so please don't judge this book by its cover. If she were happy, she wouldn't be acting out the way she is. Don't drink the kool-aid and fall into the same pitcher w/her...you have a lot of life ahead of you and only you can find a way to make yourself happy now. Leave her out there to swing in the wind...there's nothing you can do for her.
Tad, it's time to really focus on yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
