close to the edge... Pt 2

[labug]

It's not the fact that it was snarky that's bothersome. It's that you are so closed down to hearing other points of view, why should anyone bother to respond. Is this the way you reacted with your W in the marriage when she said something you didn't want to hear?

We've all been frustrated and felt alienated, it's part of the process.

All I can say is stop being frustrated and accept what is. Your W has told you she doesn't want to be in a M with you. Accept that. All you've done to this point is give her more of the same. Is your attempt to force her into counseling a replay of the past?

You aren't listening to her. You're trying to change her.

You've spent a lot of time trying to find someone who will counsel your W. If your W wanted counseling, she would seek it out.

During this time you've been seeking a priest who will "track her down" she has taken steps to move further from you and you say things have gotten worse. What you're doing is not working. And it may be that nothing works, if you define works only by reconciliation.

But you have an opportunity to become a man who can have a stable, fulfilling R.

Put time into accepting your W, and her choices. Become the man you want to be. Look around, find someone you admire to model yourself after. Find a mentor. Continue to be a great father.

Maybe nothing has changed because nothing has changed.

Have you read LITB's posts and his thread. They might be helpful to you.

I do wish you good luck.