Your right, it happens when we spend a lot of time together. However I need to make the decision: Do I continue with family outings even though OW is in the pix and suck it up? OR Do I discontinue family outings until OW is out of the pix?
This has been a struggle for me because I do enjoy the family outings, now more than before.
My trigger today was not at a family outing. I was driving his truck and he had his overnite bag in the back. I considered washing the clothes since it stank but then I remembered the times I had gone through it and found stuff. I got a rush of excitement at the thought of snooping and completely stopped myself.
Problem is that the aftermath of that rush made me come crashing down. So you see it wasn't something he did or said or anything. It was me!
Ques. I need to reframe my thinking of the sitch? See it as a casual friend so that I can put a stop to the triggers? Sounds the same as detaching. Which is where I'm struggling.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
