She needs to see consistent ACTIONS from you. The way you get there is to really believe in the changes you want to make.
If you keep telling her you've changed and then react in a way that you have in the past, she is thinking, nope, he really hasnt changed at all.
One of the most important things if for her to feel that you've heard her.
So, if she is telling you that she needs space and you are answering isnt there another way, well, you havent heard her and she gets mad.
Tonight you are getting an opportunity. Take it.
Thanks. There are some things I've been consistently good at over the last year, but clearly, there are a couple of really game changers I haven't showed enough movement in. It's difficult when it comes to trust, because honestly, she tears it down at every opportunity. Testing maybe?
With regards to the "needing space," I get it...I just don't want to agree to divorce for her to have it. I've tried not to dictate what she does, I've just asked her think about other options. I guess I could do a 180 here and say ok, let's do it and then drag my feet....but I'm not sure that helps.
