Okay, so you have noticed a pattern within yourself.
How can you transform what you have in your noggin right now, into real life actions ?
You can "think" whatever you wanna think, but until you can transform that into your actions speaking, then you have made very little progress with it.
Let's say that you get it now, and you think it now. Yet tonite , when she comes in the door, you have a reaction to how late she is out, or how she smells, or that she dyed her hair orange.
While your words to her, were that you had it under control ( bad choice BTW) , your actions COULD lead you back down that road to same old , same old BD.
To really be okay with things, you need to really be okay with things. And if you say that you are, you better SHOW her that you are.
Make sense ?
What can you do, to show her that ?
There is an adage here about faking it, till you make it. And while you may not be an expert at one thing or another yet. When you see these patterns within yourself, you really need to be calm, cool, and collected when you present yourself to her.
I'm not big on actions that are manipulative, although there are times when you can really NOT be okay with things, because you have been caught off guard. What I am a proponent of, is that you employ the 48 hour rule, so that you can come from a rational plan of action, rather than a place of reactive behaviors.
