Navy Did you notice how concerned you are about whether your W is angry or not?
Coming from one officer to another we both know that often doing the right thing will make people mad. Yet we have a duty to do what is right no matter how personally painful or how much others may not like it.
In this case you have a duty to yourself, and to your children. Is this the model of relationships you want for them? Is this what you want for yourself?
Am I advocating divorce, yes I am.
That's because in the 18 plus months since the bomb was dropped on me my view on marriage has changed. I don't believe in unconditional love.
Look your W for some reason or another no matter what she says needs you. Whether its to pay her bills, as a live in nanny for the children, or to assuage her own guilt she needs you. She's not even conflicted as to whether she loves you. As I remember she's told you multiple times she's in it for the kids. Not you.
We have both been on here long enough that if a WAW wants to leave she will leave at first chance. No matter how much it may eat away at her she is as stuck in the relationship as you are. She probably resents you for that too.
She knows she can't go back to being an irresponsible 22 year old bachelorette, so she does the closest thing which is be an irresponsible wife and mother of two. She can only act this way because you enable her to, and she begrudgingly knows this.
Otherwise she'd have to be a hard working single mom who has to work all day and take of the kids, and maybe even hire a baby sitter so she can go and have fun.
As for OM he'll be the first in a long line. Plenty of guys will enable a wayward woman for a shot at having her.
The real question is do you have a limit? Will you forgive an EA, a PA? You walking in on them?
My biggest thing here is you learning how to repeat your own feelings. Everytime she gets mad a you, you doubt your feelings and let her continue to do with you as she pleases.
