Sorry JKS -- as you know I also have a spouse with connection comparison issues.

My original suggestion was to see a family therapist to work out some "rules" for how you will both handle things with the kids. Unfortunately the therapist kind of highjacked that and tried to take it into MC. Maybe you can find a real family therapist or a child psychologist and try to go back to the original plan?

I do think it will benefit you immensely to have some rules in place regarding the children and OW.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015