WT - I would agree and I've been thinking a lot on that. My S is a scientist in her field and oddly enough it's science that turned her on to religion and belief in God. That's another story though...
It's hard to ignore faith, both religious and non-religious. I saw a metephore the other day for how I feel about all this:
"Gold must be fashioned through fire if it's to become precious and valuable."
The reference was to relationships, but it can apply to individuals too. The quote is a bit too cut and dry in that not all relationships are bad unless they experience hard times. I don't believe that, but I believe that coming of age is a process that affects people differently and maybe it's the the level of fire we have to work through that shapes us both and not just one person in a relationship. Case in point being MLC in that the severity of the experience dictates how both spouses will learn and grow. After all, I can't say I'd accomplish much in the face of a 1 month bout with MLC because it would be more like catching a cold and I'd have gained nothing of value within me. .....Thoughts are spinning so I'm stopping that train.
As for addicts and MLC, I'm aware that they share the common possibility that they both have potential to not ever recover. They may even recover to a point, but never truly heal the wounds from those that hung them out to dry.
So for now I'm day in, day out. Constantly questioning when I can stop holding onto faith in my W and put my faith in something else. In me - nah, I'll be okay in that department. Then again, it's hard to take my blinders off when I can't see them.
