Ok i'm gonna reply to these posts individually, starting with Chatterbug...
Thanks for the encouragement Chatterbug, I really do feel like I've had this realisation over the past couple of weeks that I can re-take control of my life right now.
I've decided that I don't want to stay in this situation anymore, nothing will change unless I change it.
What I need to figure out is what my next step is.
Options
Move out
Give my w an ultimatum about MC and no contact with OM (whilst being prepared to follow through with what I state)
File myself (sounds knee jerk - but I have been considering it for the last week, but need more time to confirm this is definitely what I want to do)
I did fess up and tell my friend what had been going on and he was not shocked, because he had suspicions. He supported me, but to the point that whatever I decide to do he'll back me 100%
I wish I'd told him sooner, because he was great about it all. He did what best friends do best, listened, cheered me up and got me drunk :-)
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
