Just catching up on your thread...she is certainly confused. But don't confront I know you want to, but you have to ask yourself "is this going to get me closer to my goal?" or "is this going to get me closer to the person I want to be?" When I was hurting I said so much that was counter productive because I wanted to lash out or get it out or something!!! And I so wish I had exercised my self restraint.
Do you own thing, don't always be around for the checking in and let her miss you! Look great, be mysterious.