I agree with Cadet. LRT and do not confront. Confrontation will only serve to escalate the negatives at a time when you should be seeking to reduce the negative.
As for consulting with a L. Do you know what your rights are in your state?
Knowing what your rights are and having some idea of how a D may proceed should it come to that permits one to let go of most of that worry. You’ve got enough other turmoil to deal with. Reducing negatives is for you also.
She does not need to know you have consulted. Telling her would only escalate the negative. Any L you speak with will wish to know what those papers contain. Most L’s in my experience will consult the first time “˝ hour or so” at no charge.
From my journal:
LBS creed - I can handle anything thrown my way. I am responsible for my actions, thoughts and happiness. I will respect my WAS and let their problems be their problems. I am fun, confident, interesting and capable. I am attractive. I am interested in others well being. I choose to thrive regardless of my circumstance. I am a warrior.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
