It all makes sense now... He was cheating on me.

[Broken74]

Hi sophie,

My heart goes out to you on this revelation. You are not the only one going through this, many have unfortunately had to come the same conclusion including myself. I applaud you for what seems to be a calm demeanor in the face of this. Don't do anything crazy, I lost my cool when I found my W out and it cost me dearly. I understand how you are feeling, only you will know when you have had enough.

I wanted to share what I feel is the most helpful info I have ever received on this board, maybe it will help you too (it is from a man's perspective but you get the drift).

1. You are the prize
2. You are a good man that any good woman would want
3. You can't change the past
4. If your W is unhappy that is her problem to deal with
5. If you have issues, fix them but not for her
6. There is always someone else who will apprcieate you
7. There is always someone else in worse shape than you
8. If you want to be happy fix YOU first. You can't fix her.
9. Decide if you want to be married to the alien that has become your wife..If so, why in the world would you want that???
10. The sooner you get your head on straight and realize you can handle life without your current wife. The sooner you will get the wife you want and deserve. That may or may not be your current wife.
11. The pain will not go away or lessen until you face these things and take action.
12. It is all up to you. You decide how long you suffer. This is not negotiable.

Keep your chin up and know everyone is here for you in your quest for happiness, with or without your H. Good Luck!