Bill. Your mind is in a great location. I am glad you have stepped beyond that "It's her journey" stuff.
D8 and S6 will learn tons about your character. They will also learn what is acceptable and unacceptable treatment of those you love. But more importantly they will learn that it is unhealthy to let some one walk over you due to porous boundaries and lack of self identity.
Some great teaching moments coming up.
How did the conversation with your friend go ?
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!