I understand feeling like giving up. I struggle with it all the time.
There is no doubt they feel shame. Yet, they continue to make bad choices that bring them shame and guilt. Doesn't make sense to our non-MLC mind, but they must get something out of it.
It seems my H chooses when to wear his ring. He wears it to work. He wears it when we are with our families. He doesn't wear it when he is going to see her. He needs to figure out that not wearing your ring doesn't make you not married.
A good friend of mine works with my H. She said he has been withdrawn and miserable at work. Oh, and OW works with them too.
My friends are all in line wanting to kick her a$$. The offer is so tempting LOL!
If you get a chance, read the posts on my thread by Brookie. She is a vet whose advice and words really help me. I may have come far since bomb drop, but I still have a way to go.
Please hang in there and take care of yourself. I remember feeling hopeless, now I'm just at frustrated and sad. I guess that's growth.
Don't be hard on yourself. No matter what your H says, you know the truth about the person that you are. What the hell does he know about anything right now??? He can't even decide what rake to use!
Stay strong girl!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
