I am new to your posts - but definitely not new to your situation. The EXACT same conversation took place in my kitchen 2.5 years ago. I am SO sorry that you were exposed to it - that anyone would be exposed to it. The words are cruel, hurtful, confusing, infuriating...you name it.
Your post also made me think of this weekend. My oldest D got married and I was pushed into a situation where I was closer to XH than I have been since all of this started. He was not just a stranger but also like an alien. No attachment to anyone or anything in a room that included his children and his former inlays who loved and supported him for 30 years. It was very sad and disheartening.
I can only advise you to continue taking very good care of yourself. In fact - it's called EXTREME SELF CARE. Avoid contact with him and spend a lot of time taking care of yourself. Use this site, read, walk, find your inner peace.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
