Thread #7 - What goes down, might come up.

[Navyguy]

Navy
Here is your chance she seriously disrespected you! Serve her papers. This was a huge slap in the face, and she just proved that she can say she is going to go hang out with this guy, and you are powerless to stop it. Which means she can now go sleep with him, and you are also powerless to stop her. This is proving to her that you will stay no matter how much she disrespects you. So guess what it'll get worse. Now don't go crazy and make a scene just calmly inform her that her actions have shown she has no respect for you and the marriage and that you will be serving her soon.

Me and my w had a similar problem. She couldn't see how her actions with friends were bad. I had to make it clear that it had to do nothing with impropriety but the perception of it. If she thinks this relationship is so clean then why are you not involved why are you cut out from their dinners? Why must she hide so much. More importantly if she can't accept your boundaries then what is she doing with you? She needs to move on to a relationship status where she won't have boundaries she doesn't like.

I can tell from your comments that you are already trying to rationalize her blatant disrespect. It's not that you are too strict, it's that you are too weak to stand up to someone who doesn't respect you.

Sorry if I sound harsh but come on man. Everyone around you and on this board agrees this is out of line, and you are wondering if you are too strict?!

All you can do is let it go?! Sounds like you are too afraid to be alone so, yes you are right all you can do is let it go. As for your kids, well I guess it's ok for them to grow up thinking that it's ok for mommy to have man friends on the side, and to go get drunk all night away from home.

Seriously Navy when is enough, enough?!

GB...I'm not saying I'm going to "let it go", I said I need to "let go". Maybe that means filing, maybe that means I get to a place where I am ok with this friendship. I don't know right now. Hopefully between IC, MC, and EE I can figure that out.

Yesterday's drama was pointless...all it did was piss W off.