Meant to say risk the safety of her grand children.

The link IS the bottle. I can go on and on and on and on... 45 freakin' years of experience of this...

Go to a support group and get some first hand accounts.

DB IS the tool for you. Because you will save yourself in the process and learn ways to cope with your W's condition.

AFAIK, alcohol abuse is the same as spousal abuse and child abuse. It absolutely ranks right up there.

and again...

I WILL NOT advise you to leave.

I am just trying to help you understand. And I know only time and experience will help that sink in. There is nothing you can do...

Until you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure... the bottle is gone...