I did beat myself up that maybe I was missing him and not feeling detached because maybe I had expectations. I really tried to examine myself about my expectations and finally decided that I just need to let the wave go through me and past me.
I make NO comments re: OW. About the meat thing I said nothing. When he talked about her parents making jokes, I changed the suject and talked about how I handle anti-american stuff at work and made a joke and moved on. Cheryl said never to say anything negative about her, point out that he seems unhappy at any time (or ever if we reconcile...just leave)
Cheryl did say I'd be the other woman but it was fine. That my job was to make him feel happy, loved, and wanted at home. She said make it easy for him to come home. He wants to. I did notice on Friday, he didn't wait at the front door he opened and knocked on his way in. It made me smile, because Zig had noticed her H starting to do the same thing.
I'm also trying not to do anything in general. I am just keeping everything upbeat, fun, and happy. He called me after the doctor appointment to give me the latest on S. He also texted me at lunch "thanks so much for the sandwich. such a nice unexpected surprise. And you know how much I like them" I'm blown away.....
I replied that I was happy he'd liked it, I'd hoped it would be a nice surprise. Told him it was equally an unexpected nice surprise that I'd be having his dish for dinner. that it had been way too long!
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i imagine that he hasn't YET consciously realized that he is throwing out all these negative comments about ow.
I think this is correct. I also think he hasn't noticed yet how comfortable he's getting around me.....
