In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

[breakdownbill]

Hi Yankee

No we definitely haven't got an agreement to piece or try to piece anything back together again.

I'm not mindreading when I say that I'm pretty sure her words actions still suggest we are co-parenting room mates, who are still good friends & find each other physically attractive.

It is confusing living together and if it wasn't for the kids I don't think we would still be living together right now.

She is still a WAS and right now, I'm not far behind in the wanting away stakes.

I've reached a point where I don't want to stay in this cycle of me thinking things are slowly getting better, without having hopes and expectations.

My W initiated that R talk a few weeks ago & I laid down a clear boundary about her contact with the other man, which she continues to ignore.

For me things can't stay the same, I'm through being her plan B.

I'm looking into legal separation, living arrangements, all my options & I'm going to sit with it for a couple of weeks, so I don't do anything hasty or unrational.

For all the problems that we've had in our M, I take my share of the responsibility for them, but I'd be a fool to think that our issues where solely down to me & her behaviour is justifiable because of our problems.

I just can't pretend anymore that her continual lack of respect for me by carrying on contact with the OM is acceptable, I need to enforce this boundary whatever the outcome and I am now ready to deal with the fall out.