Navy Here is your chance she seriously disrespected you! Serve her papers. This was a huge slap in the face, and she just proved that she can say she is going to go hang out with this guy, and you are powerless to stop it. Which means she can now go sleep with him, and you are also powerless to stop her. This is proving to her that you will stay no matter how much she disrespects you. So guess what it'll get worse. Now don't go crazy and make a scene just calmly inform her that her actions have shown she has no respect for you and the marriage and that you will be serving her soon.
GB90, I have to say I think this is pretty harsh and almost inciting divorce. I'm not keen on your tone. Almost sounds like, 'Slap that •itch up the side of the head and get her in line! You need to get your respect!' Not keen at all with this tone GB90.