oh my - your second post was in a completely different vein than your first one. so that response was to your first one.
it sounds as if you know a lot about what she is going through and that you have dealt with it amazingly - fully conscious of your choices.
i'll be brief as i have to get some winks and get up awful early
i had a lot of treatment - therapy, hypnotherapy (that actually proved to work the best) and a lot of self searching as you have all witnessed
an anxiety disorder is not easy to get over - and when accompanied by a lot physical symptoms, is even more to overcome - they sort of feed on each other.
in the end, it was my own task to be determined to overcome it. interestingly - i didn't even know i had it until later
have you yourself ever sought out a therapist who specializes in this and gone to talk to them about how YOU can handle each scenario and how your role could help your wife to seek the help she needs for this?
my therapist had really good tools - and she wanted h to come in and talk about it with her -but he simply refused - his stance being - it's you f'ed up not me, i'm not coin anything wrong
it wasn't the wrong or right of what he was doing.
just like we find out in db'ing that there are tools we haven't ever known about to have a successful r, it's the same here- there are always tools and solutions - it's finding out what they are
i may be 'preaching to the choir" and you've already done all that....
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
