It has been a Cold Day in Hell. My ex messaged me that he would like me to phone him at home as he needed to talk to me. What? He sounded awful - stressed. Or drinking. Who knows? I was EXTREMELY stressed. Our communication has been very volatile in the past.
But I called. He was very upset about Ryan and wanted to know details about why he was in therapy and to let me know he didn't think the hospital was doing a good job with him.
I was able to tell him how inappropriate bringing a child in to see Ryan was. How it endangered both the child and Ryan. I explained MRSA in detail and immunocompromised systems. He said he had not known. I told him that I had asked him to call me so I could outline it and review the visitation policies but he had not phoned me so I had tried to explain it by text but that didn't make it very clear.
He repeated things back to me a couple of times. Even getting MRSA wrong (although I have spelled it out to him before). He wanted to know why I had not called to let him know Ryan was in hospital - I reminded him that he had been in Russia and that I did not have a contact number or any idea when he was returning. And he understood. I told him it would be easier to communicate by email. He did not volunteer his email address. So I let it go.
He asked me why he needed to be in hospital. I explained what we had been going through for months. He said he had no idea. I told him he had not had intense physio since he was in a coma. He said "You never told me he was in a coma". I said "You were there - 18 months ago". And he said "Oh yeah". Like he didn't even remember at first.
He asked if he could be in a different hospital. He totally doesn't get that he is in a therapy program that he is lucky to be in. I tried to tell him about that.
The good news is that I got my point across about limiting visitors/germs etc. He was not nasty. Nor was I. He wants to see him again next week. I will be SURE to have that allowable visitors list and ensure it will be enforced.
So - in a way it was good. But listening to him - I really am more convinced that he is really losing it or drinking. Sad but true.
