Yes, I realize considering divorce is not something that is normally posted on a site that is intended to getting marriages back on track.
My W & I have been married 14 years. We are now in our 7th month of separation. We are in our 3rd month of counseling. Other than the counseling session, we do spend time together -usually Sunday afternoons... kind of like a date. We are able to have light-hearted conversation & share laughter. We have always been unsuccessful with deep meaningful communication on any topic which might cause tension. While we connect well with our counselor, it doesn't seem we're making any progress toward a healthy marriage, but rather maintaining a friendly relationship.
Over a year ago, my W gave me the ILYBNILWY speech. Shortly thereafter, I discovered she had OM. We separated 01/01/12, and she continued the confirmed EA (though I strongly suspect it was also a PA). Upon our entering couples counseling, I thought things were looking brighter. It wasn't until recently, I learned she is still sneaking around with the same OM.
In terms of trust, I'm getting to the end of my rope. I never, ever, thought I'd say this... perhaps it is time to acknowledge it's time to move on. As I love her, maybe I should respect (and honor) that her feelings may no longer be mutual.
