Swimming with certain Turtles

[zig]

NICE!!!

here's a good example of why letting go works.

one of the most agonizingly painful things that happened after BD, for me, was that h completely stopped acknowledging my relationship to s as his mother

I was only zig - not mom, or your mother or any reference whatsoever that would imply that. what s called me and what h referred to me as was "mama". in response, s started calling me zig too

i wept, i cried, i was devastated - that's by far, what hurt almost the most.

it took me a long time to get over - i had to work at it.

then finally i let it go.

then slowly - almost without me noticing, just in the last couple of months - he started saying 'your mother ' to s

now today for the second time in a row - he said "give your mama a hug and then we'll leave"

the first time, i wasn't sure if i imagined it - but confirmed today!!

and my initial reaction - oh god -i wanted that so bad for so long and then i convinced myself it wasn't that important and now it's here....

there's a lesson there for sure, ya think?

now a few minutes later, i'm so pleased to be given back my 'mama status' all around (grin)

itsy bitsy baby step....maybe....