TIME for a change

[Broken74]

Eventful weekend... Got a thank you from my SS for his birthday gift (SAT prep book and card with encouragement words about school and test/college preparation).

SS: Hey thanks for the present and the card! I really appreciate it!

Me: You're welcome, I hope you had a great birthday! If you're game for tennis or Japanase one day hit me up. Take it easy!

SS: Or instead could we got to like a regular batting cage and u pitch some to me and me hit? I'm trying to work on my batting cause I wanna try out for baseball again.

Me: Sure man sounds like fun. Let me know when you want to do it and we'll hook it up.

SS: Okay. Only problem is I don't have a baseball bat or any baseballs lol So we'll have to use tennis balls or something and I guess I'll have to find a cheap baseball bat or something.

Me: Don't sweat that I can round up a bat and balls just let me know when you want to do it.

SS: Okay :-)

So that can be nothing but a positive that my SS would like some baseball practice help, that gave me a little boost. I am looking forward to being able to spend some time with him regardless of the new information I came across below.

Today come to find out OM enlisted his FB relationship status to "in a relationship" with my W. I am not friends with W and I had OM blocked. To confirm this, I unblocked the OM, and sure enough this is true. W had unblocked me some time ago for whatever reason, she does not advertise her relationship status publically not that it matters at all.

This is the straw that breaks the camels back for me. I called and spoke to her ex-father in law whom I am still friends with. Her mother left him about two years ago and has been married once since and is getting married again. I belive that will make number 7 or 8. And this is what I married into. His advice to me was cut bait and run as hard as I can, that if I don't see the forest for the trees at this point I need to get my head examined. I FINALLY agree with him and EVERY OTHER FRIEND AND FAMILY WHO CARES ABOUT ME. The good thing is a few months ago I would have flipped out over this. Not anymore. I am done, finished, finit. Came here to vent on this and I will be adhering to the 48 hour rule before doing anything except speaking with my attorney to get the ball rolling. It is hard to accept the realization that I have been played for such a fool, but it is what it is. I made my mistakes, but it is obvious that her MO was to milk me dry until she could find a bigger fish to fry. Perhaps the OM will be in for as much of an eventful ride as I got.

I am removing my self imposed dating restrictions at this point. I have my mojo back and am going to exercise it the fullest to enjoy my life, everyday. I may have gotten played by someone that I thought I knew, but I have learned and that most certainly will not be happening again. I have also learned a lot about myself in this process and will take those lessons to heart going forward.

I wanted to give a heart felt thanks to any and all who have ever read or posted to my threads. I cannot tell you what a tremendous help you have been to me from the bottom of my heart. Although I am not getting "what I wanted" when I started out here, I think I am going to be much better off in the long run as a result. I did the best I could stepping into a stepfather role of 3 when I had no experience. As a result of this, I know that I want a child of my own in the future. If it were not for the experience I had with my stepkids I may have never came to that conclusion. I hope to maintain a R with my stepkids but only time will tell on that. More than likely their relationship will continue with my W affair partner instead.

Man, I can't believe I am done Divorce Busting. I am not only dropping the rope, I am burning it. I was prepared for this to happen on 8/27, as they say life is short I guess I will be thankful this realization came 38 days early.

I will update this thread to the conclusion of my sitch, so hopefully it can serve as a learning tool to others. There is a sense of peace and calm about me now that I haven't had since this entire diatribe of nonsense started. I am really incredibly glad this over, and am looking forward to my new life. I am happy to have permanently departed limbo-land.

Thanks again to everyone and good luck to all in your respective sitch's!