XH actually talked about OW briefly during yet another argument we had over a month ago. That was when I asked him if he was at the house when I was out of town because his truck was seen. He then told me that the OW was out of town at a funeral and he was on the computer at home.
Given the man only contacts me when she's not around and seems to keep trying to jump in and out of where he still feels his place is in our lives, I figured he just stepped in his very own trap! Especially after what just happened with this ipod! When the cats away the mice will play! He knows his truck is seen here all the time to drop off and pick up the kids, so why not sneak off over here and spy on my house while Im out of town? The neighbors won't think anything of it will they?
Before then he has NEVER mentioned her to me in the last year with the exception of when I confronted him. He appeared so desperate to have an aliby I guess he had to bring her into it. I guess it really doesn't matter, there is no reason for him to speak to me about her and quite frankly I don't want to hear any of it anyway.
Im really beginning to believe that these WAS truly still want to keep part of the lives they walked away from and they have no intention to letting us go....but they don't realize it. We the LBS are trying to move on and completely let go yet they keep intruding over and over in one way or another. It keeps us hooked, and leaves us to have false hope of reconcilliation for some time.
As of now Im kind of seeing role reversal here. I've gone from LBS to WAS. XH is acting a bit like LBS.
So....how to deal with it now? If the LBS turns into the WAS, and the WAS is now starting to act like the LBS, how do you handle it the best way? All I know to do is to treat him the way I wished I was treated when he walked out. If you're going to leave, then stay gone. No BFF behavior, and definately No invading your NOW personal space and house, because I no longer live there. Any communication that needs to be done, make it clear and concise, and NO HEAD GAMES!
