(I wrote that about the psych wards; at least I was one person who did recently in case somebody else did too.)It was a related story overheard at the grocery. I think it fits in many cases, especially where we try to understand that gap between what we want and what is. At least, that's how I read it.
RT, is it not possible for you to detach and live your life and *still* be there later to listen to her if that's what she chooses? I think so. I wrestle with that. I once promised a lot. I was asked for less when it ended. But would it be a big deal to me to just "listen" if asked to do so?
You make your choices as they are needed. Not before. Controlling everything will eventually wear you out - it's why we suggest letting what will be, be. Accepting things for what they are and focusing on yourself vs. others. I.e. give to yourself what you would give to others (golden rule explained perhaps?)
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
