As much as venting CAN help, it has the risk of merely keeping you stuck and feeling like a victim, which can lead to resentment and surely helps no one.
But with SSM, there is some irritation admitted by him when suggestions are made. So that isn't helping him, which means there isn't a lot for us to do as board peeps b/c he says it irks him to imply that he hasn't tried "X" or that he's a clod.
So, while your question is THE question (ie "what are you willing to settle for?")
my question about how WE HERE can help him, remains a mystery, to me anyhow.
But maybe just knowing you are out there for him helps...???
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