Actually, before this thread is done, I'll just post to clarify a little about what I mean by no differentiation between marital and personal boundaries.
I am talking about boundaries which suggest something we would not accept from a spouse or a friend in a general sense.
Boundaries that legally and morally / ethically / physically protect one's self and one's children from harm is appropriate.
In the general sense of someone leaving the seat down on the toilet or being annoying in bed or making rude outbursts in public... these types of things might seem like nothing to the casual observer, but to a person in a broken M, they seem like they ARE the barriers that cause D.
These and many other things are not even on the radar as boundaries unless both people decide they want to be M. Otherwise, it's like having a friend who you don't like to go to a restaurant with, because they stick straws in their nose...
