LOL....Yes Wish/hope....we ARE the OW!! I've read a little on your sitch and you are handling this VERY WELL. Confident and put together. WAS don't know how to handle that. My XH got quite a bit more respectful when I had my attorney handle things for him too. However it appears he's gone back into Monster knowing the D is final and no more attorney.
Seriously, hindsight being 20/20 now, he was treating me as the OW the minute he got seriously involved with her!
And when I confronted him about her, he acted like it was as casual as going to the movies or giving her a ride down town or something! And he was living with her 2 months at the time!!!
