What is wrong with having minimal contact, dropping off D2, and keeping it to emergency calls?
You're a fully capable father that can deal with a toddler, so unless there's some issues like she's sick or hurt, I don't see any reason why you have to keep up any extra friendly contact with your X.
I've been through what you're describing....pretending as if everything is ok when it's not, and feeling you have to do this for the children. It wore me down, and for me it got to the point that I had to put distance between XH and myself. I had to. A good friend of mine told me that my XH and I don't have to be BFF's to be good parents to the kids. And that's true. I know he's perfectly capable of taking proper daily care of the girls when they're with him. The emotional care of the kids on his part....very questionable and alot left to be desired in that arena. But They're old enough for me to gracefully back out and let them take the reigns on that one with him. I do step up and speak up when things happen with him...mainly him overstepping boundaries with me.
This is the 3rd OM? And he just was separated? Well that will last just as well as the other 2 did. One thing Ive learned is that anyone with any true self respect will NOT get involved romantically right away after leaving a marriage or relationship. But as fragile as everyone is when that happens (and we know this too) I guess the temptation is too great.
Do you suppose this OM that's stalking you may be actually trying to connect with you so he can talk about you STBXW?
