ha ha!! you do need to look hot the next day -we all do!!
so here's what bothered me - h as well as his father have unusually abnormal breathing patterns. it wasn't just the snoring - he practically stopped breathing, and it worried me no end. he wouldn't go in to get it checked out. i would often have to shake him to get him breathing again
the stupid thing is that his father would snore so bad that h would complain about it and when i would try to say that he was the same he would get really scornful.
then finally his dad found some device that hooked over his nose and the whole house was quiet!! mil finally got to have a full nights' sleep.
h on the other hand wouldn't even consider trying it - he just got mad at me and said there was no way in hell he was going to even look into it. the way i took it was - you don't care about me enough to even try it out!!
i know - pathetic. on top of it, he resented it that i would eventually leave the room - like at 4 in the morning and go sleep in another part of the house just to get some sleep. he ridiculed me when i couldn't wake up in the morning because i had been up until 4 or 5 unable to sleep because of the sound as well as worrying that he would stop breathing
so yeah - he wasn't doing it on purpose - but he was deliberately refusing to do anything about it!!
how does one work around that, i wonder!!!!
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"