Well, the hardest part is the feeling she is just using me to be the plan B guy as Starsky mentioned in the thread on the infidelity forum.

I've done alright in DBing these last few days. Went out last evening to some friends to do some gaming. Got the WW to watch the kids, but she did not pick them up til 9pm from her mother's place. Wonder why she was so late.

Today was wierd. She went out in the morning until 1:30, and I said nothing. Then we took the kids to the pool. We swam and ended up in the jacuzzi. We hugged and I even got a kiss, but I get the "best friends" line. I'm thinking guilt, not love.

This evening we went out to the local town center to hear a concert with the kids. The WW planned on going out dancing tonight as payback for me going out the night before. She also tried to convince us to stay home instead of the concert. I insist because I want to spend time with the kids with or without her. She says fine, but she will meet me there. So I go, feed the kids, and enjoy the music. She calls 30 min later to let us know where she is at. I take the kids through the crowd over, and who do I run into, but the OM! I play cool and ignore him, passing right by him as if he is just another person in my way. I have the kids with me, so I don't want any scene, though I might have done the same without her. I go to WW and act as if nothing happens.

So she is all affectionate, putting arm around me. We stay until ten, then she starts looking at her watch. She starts to rush us and says she has to go. So she leaves and I take the kids back. Just her guilt again.

So I did not lose it. But she keeps using me and playing family with us. But she gives her passion, romance, and sex to the OM. It will be hard to forgive all this crap if she comes back. I feel she is just gonna keep using me as she said she is not ready to choose, which she brought up. But it is ok if I am ready to leave her. Sounds like she is making me resposible for any S. Its her affair, so I know it is her fault.

thnks for the support.


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Me: 42 WW: 46
Married: 14y
D-Day: 5/18/2012
D 12, S 8
Status: In my room, but A Continues