It's normal, zig. You're outside of the normal, familiar patterns of old with your H. Every interaction with your H is a chance for a new experience. It's not a bad thing. It's a great thing! It means your R is different than it was before. I think it's also a higher state of R consciousness - you are probably seeing things in H that you're not crazy about (other than him being an alien right now). Things that would have to be negotiated in a new R going forward. Take note of these - it will help you decide whether the R will work for YOU in the future. How do you feel about getting back into an R where H hasn't changed at all? If he dropped everything and said he wanted to come back today, right now, would you have to think about it? It's okay to say yes. (very much paraphrased advice from Cheryl ) (You don't need to talk about what would have to change, just a thought exercise for you for now). I found it really empowering to think about my own needs in an R for a change.
) (You don't need to talk about what would have to change, just a thought exercise for you for now). I found it really empowering to think about my own needs in an R for a change.
