Has the OW contacted you since you both met and went back to her appartment? I think you need to be prepared by knowing in advance how you will handle this if she does. And if she doesn't, you need to realize that it will be very tempting to meet a new woman to chat with, or meet.
Your emotional defenses are down, and turning to the opposite sex would be easy (especially since you've already done it once).
It's not an easy battle, but it can be won!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
