A New Path - I just left my wife

[mamabird]

Just out of curiosity, what would it take for you to accept your W back? I am in a similar situation but I am the W who had a texting affair. Main difference though is that the A meant nothing, it was very short and was only to distract me from my unhappiness/pain and to meet some deep needs for acceptance that my H was not fulfilling. It was over the day my H found out about it.

I have apologized profusely and repeatedly and my H knows I want to try to make it work. He is in a self-protective confused place, like you are. It's too late for me to try anything else so I am currently doing LRT and GAL and working on my own issues and it actually seems to be working for the time being.

So, what could she say or do that would change your mind? I know you really want to get back together with her in your heart but the trust issues are just too deep and painful for you to risk that right now. If she were willing to go to counseling with you, and you could see that she honestly was willing to work on the relationship (drop the OM and the drugs) would that make a difference?