Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

2tp,

Thanks for the feedback. Yes, my MIL really wants H to see what life will be like without me before he files for D.

I think I've just spent the last year or so afraid that he'd think that I'd given up on him like everyone else has and that would cause him to lose all possible hope of R.

But with most of our financial ties about to be gone, and him most likely living 25+ miles away, I am ready for him to see that life now.

My apt is less than a mile from our house, so it was easy to go over there when he'd call. But I won't drive to the other side of town and since he'd be living with a friend, that would be awkward anyway.

H never expected any of his friends to come to our side of town and would always go over there. Now that I'll be the only one this direction, I'm somewhat curious to see if he'll make any effort to see me, but if he doesn't, that just shows me that I'm making the right decision to detach.

I really do like H's best friend, but I didn't marry him also. I just wanted time alone with my H.

My view of marriage is that it should be the two of us taking on the world.

H and I should have had a few more conversations about what we expected from married life. I've learned a lot from this about what I need/want from my next relationship, regardless of who it's with.

Now, just to get through all of the last minute details to get this house sold and move on to the next chapter in my life.