If you FEEL you are being used, then you ARE being used...
IN YOUR MIND...
We all come here wanting that quick fix... that solution to make things all right...
Two things that we forget when we start throwing things like boundaries and victim and dealing with all that other lovely stuff that is thrown at us...
In our sitches, those of us who are here:
SPACE and TIME = opportunity...
Would you be the way you are to your spouse? Would you want to be "that person"?
Would you be the way you are to a friend? Would you want to be "that person"?
Space... space... space...
detach... detach... detach...
Anything else is possibly reacting...
No, we don't deserve to be treated this way...
But knowing this person in the past... did they treat us this way, before? If they did, do we believe they really wanted to?
We know our spouses best. If we really thought we were being abused intentionally... why would we be here trying to get better?
That they are treating us this way now? It is what it is. No need to get our panties in a bunch... and start throwing all our own projections and reasons and rationalizations at them...
