Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

I feel like I had a small victory yesterday. H was angry because I forgot to tell him about an event with our son sooner than the day of. He felt that I was being vindictive because of my concerns with our pending separation and the fun parent/warden parent potential. By the time we were actually able to discuss it I had my wits about me. I explained that I understood how he would feel that way and I'm sorry that it happened but that it wasn't intentional I've just had a lot on my mind (duh) and I wasn't trying to undermined his relationship with our son. He calmed down pretty quickly because I didn't take a defensive position and wouldn't get drawn into a fight. That felt really good. Now I just need to remember to do that...