I am considering doing one of these thread from Braveheart too, I know that he still posts here occassionaly and he had some very interesting threads. Stay tuned the above post is from one of these threads.
I can give many other examples of people like that...In all my years here, I have only seen 2 or 3 people like that.
please avoid sweeping generalizations like that.
It's similar to reading a poster who says they have read/listen/seen 1000's of cases and none of them did, X,Y, or Z.
It's disheartening to anyone reading it. While I am not Pollyanna. I also know that most people go with numbers, and your numbers, which I don't happen to agree with paint it pretty bleak.
Not arguing with you, not butting heads just asking you to tone down the Doom.
Jack3, how many times over the years have you asked this same thing of Braveheart?
Braveheart—who I think is awesome by the way—has a long history of posting ideas about reconciliation being against the odds and that MLCers won’t come through, they won’t be remorseful, they won’t change…
Braveheart, I’ve said it before and I will say it again:
“But to say that the odds are against someone is pessimistic, negative and discouraging to many. It is also not true. For those who ar fragile, it fades the light of Hope. Some may be too fragile to Withstand Standing, but for others their fragility is a naturals part of the early phases. Forget odds...for or against. If the odds were that 1% returned I would still see myself there...”
Many LBSs who choose to step down from their Stand stop posting. Many people who reach rebuilding their marriage stop posting; they are focusing on their marriage instead. This forum is not a reliable source for collecting data regarding the odds for or against reconciliation; the population is skewed.
The other thing is that maybe those odds will change. With education, maybe more people will learn about Standing and how to Stand and some who would have kicked’em to the curb quickly will not do that and will someday recover their marriage instead. That’s one of the goals of places like this. The hope is that next year there will be more reconciled marriages than this year and even more in two years and in ten a whole lot more—more than there would have been without places like this.
I am in a reconciled marriage. Now I really am living with a husband who is a Sweetheart.
