and do not have her reading your palm etc. also don't let her hug/kiss you.
there's something there that is screwy - and what i'm hearing is that you're hoping she'll convince your wife to change her mind.
lose that thought!
i think i pointed that out to you early on in the first thread.
it's hard for us LBS's not to cling somehow to the idea that someone else will help the WAS to "see" what they are doing and get them to see our side.
give it up. in fact , i would make a point not to be anywhere around that friend. you have to accept what the wife is doing . you are playing too many games right now. you're not detached enough to be playing games.
don't you think it's time to drop the rope and start focusing on yourself.
when your posts here are less about your wife and friend and more about your own introspection and growth, then you know you are on the right track
i'm not saying that you shouldn't be posting about what goes down in your sitch - but what i am not seeing is you focusing on what you are doing to change your ways FOR YOURSELF.
you're looking to "win" every little interaction with wife and friend - and that never goes well.
it's time for a 2x 4 - how about a tad bit of humility and a good hard look in the mirror. and forget the wife and friend while you're doing it. i'm only writing this because i want to see you get on the track you're supposed to be on. the flippancy is back, and i know that flippancy hides hurt - lot's of hurt behind it. time to take that mask off and start your own healing - and this is the place where you can come to help you do it.
as for that friend - if she has the wife's ear right now - STAY AWAY!!
practice your DB skills on her - act as if you are fine , happy etc etc. do NOT talk to her about your feelings or this site etc - that is a snake in the grass if ever i felt one.
also - if you can recognize the roller coaster - what are you still doing on it????
also - earlier you were GAL'ing - going out to do your stuff. why are you hanging out with wife and friend?
i do hope you are doing well - mac - and even though i'm not posting much, i've been following along
sorry for the whacks - but if you read back we gave you some a couple? of weeks ago - and now we're back to the same point.
stay vigilant - old habits die hard - and when i don't post much here - after all these months i've started to recognize that that's when i am not on the right track/
i don't know if what you are writing here is only part of the picture and you're just not mentioning the other good stuff you are doing for yourself - so my response is based on what i read.
take care of yourself
(((( )))) zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
