Just send him a message and ask if he received your other message. That you need the mail so you can take care of a few things. Stop thinking about what he may or may not be thinking. Keep the focus on your needs.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Won't that be seen as pursuing behaviour? I 'm thinking of waiting until next week then asking him to post it (if he would). If i don't get it from him by 24th of July, then i would re-apply for the documents and have them posted to me.
Just a thot...
Me 33, H 34 T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch) M 4 DD 3 OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010
1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea) OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11) I moved out 3/12/11
so i sent this 'Did you receive my email yesterday? If saturday is not convenient, would you be able to post the mail to my work? (I do need it urgently). I can also post the iphone to you'
will wait and see if i get a reply this time....
Me 33, H 34 T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch) M 4 DD 3 OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010
1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea) OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11) I moved out 3/12/11
Why would it seem like pursuing? He has your mail which you said you urgently need, so all you're doing is trying to get that. Pursuing is asking him for coffee while you're getting your mail. If he's only not responding to keep get a response from you, it makes him a douche.
Bottom line. You need your mail. Tell him that if he can't accommodate you, then he has to mail it to you because you have deadlines to take care of. Why should you have to re-apply for documents you already have?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
It's Friday, still no reply from H. I am furious. The old me would have sent several angry messages at the lack of reply. but he's not going to get that from me this time. I've made up my mind that if rhe replies before tomorrow morning, I will go, but only for 10 - 30 mins (just long enough to swap the stuff). He is clearly not ready for the talk he's being asking for, so I@m not going to stay to listen.
Just venting. knowing H, he won't even reply at all. He is just trying to take advantage of this opportunity to annoy me by pretenting he is going to reply.
This is ridiculous. Sent the first text on Tuesday. If i didn't need my mail, i wouldn't even consider going....
Me 33, H 34 T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch) M 4 DD 3 OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010
1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea) OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11) I moved out 3/12/11
No reason to be furious. That is based on an expectation.
Your expectations need to go to zero.
Your actions that you intend to take are correct. If you see him for 10 mins then you have to go because you have tickets for a show or something else that is more important to do.
tonibertha, don't let him make your behave in a way you'll be sorry for. show him that his passive/agressive behavior is no longer working on you and you'll have to put up with it less and less.
good luck. his response has even me furious! help us both and show him how mature and detached you are from all this drama.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Guess i do need to work on my expectations. For me, having NO expectations of someone means that they mean absolutely nothing to you, and you mean nothing to them. But maybe that is a good place to be with H.
My last post had so many typos, I was mortified when i read it last night. i was typing at work and wanted to be quick before anyone came. Hard to explain being on this BB....
Anyway, so far,, no word from H. He's really grabbing hold of this opportunity to score one up on me. Lol. He must be misunderstanding my intentions here. I've decided to re-apply on the 23rd, the cost is really negligible and not worth the hassle with H. So that gives him a whole week to decide to send my mail, or not. At this point, I don't really care....
Me 33, H 34 T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch) M 4 DD 3 OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010
1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea) OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11) I moved out 3/12/11
For me, having NO expectations of someone means that they mean absolutely nothing to you, and you mean nothing to them. But maybe that is a good place to be with H.
I think when you are really detached then the love that you have for someone can be put away in a box up on the shelf.
You can still have NO EXPECTATIONS and move forward with your life.
That love can be revived again at a later date but for right now you might be better off thinking about it the way you have stated above.
It is perfectly normal to feel the way you do.
Mirror work is sometimes not so obvious and many times more mental than physical.
The way we think about things takes TIME to change.
A 180 will be that no matter what he does it does not affect you. Harder to do than it seems but it is something to work towards.
