Then you have the answer to your million dollar ques. You need to chill out. You seem to have very high expectations of him and when he doesn't meet them, you let him know.
You will need to back off!
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017