How many licks does it take...?

[workinghardguy]

One other thing 2TP... it does depend on your martial assets and where things are at that stage. For example, if the pool maintenance were to go undone and that would destroy the pool and that would really hurt your property value and it's still your property to care about... well, then that's more of an asset management strategy than a relationship strategy.

But I don't think it's about teaching her lessons. I know my stoppage of fixing things for my W wasn't about "making her man up". It was about time. Time I was there doing things meant I wasn't doing things I wanted to do.

In a marriage we constantly make those trade-offs. I will give here for something that's important for you and you'll do the same for me.

But we're not married. So we don't make those trade offs anymore. Now it's simply what is best for me.

If you really have all that time available and want to do it... great. But if you're doing that instead of doing other things you want to do, then not great.

I helped my SS with W's lawn a few weeks ago. He wanted to mow it on the day he was here because she pays him to do it. So I took him over there. I helped him when the mower was finicky and I helped him see where his quality control process wasn't so great. But I did that because I got to be with SS, help him, and teach him some values all at the same time. W's lawn was simply the ballpark we were using to play the game in. Her benefit was an unintended byproduct, not the goal in and of itself.