How many licks does it take...?

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Thanks everyone for the comments. I haven't decided what I'm going to do just yet. I did commit to helping my W figure out the pool maintenance process and she texted me this evening asking more questions so it appears as if she is set on assuming that responsibility. Of course if she is looking for pool boy services, I'll have to raise my rates!

She also texted me earlier asking if I'd come over to the house early Saturday morning to watch S10 while she takes S14 to paintball and then goes to some kickboxing class. I don't mind watching the kids but I was a little annoyed that she would expect me to get up early on a Saturday so she can go to a gym class. I texted back and suggested she bring S10 by my place on her way out and she agreed. Glad that is settled!

S10 also has a baseball tournament this weekend so I suspect there will be a fair amount of interaction between us. I've been pretty dark lately and hope to be able to maintain some of that this weekend. In fact I stopped by the house earlier today and saw W very briefly. I was sorting through the mail and she came into the kitchen and says hello. I say hi back and almost immediately leave. Not in a mean way, but I didn't want to hang around.

Hopefully I'm doing this right!

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Regarding the emotional pain, it is really something how long that tends to linger. Even when you feel like you are past it and getting on with your life, it has a tendency to creep up on you unexpectedly and the next thing you know, your a ball of tears. It sux when it happens in a public setting as it did for me the other day. I had to pull myself together long enough to get to my car so that I could grieve in private.

I guess the saying is true - time heals all wounds. In the case of a Divorce or marital crisis, I think we are talking about a lot of friggin time!!